You ever watched Love and Hip Hop? You know, the “reality” show on VH1 that follows the lives of women who love and work in the industry? Unless you’ve been under a rock, you’ve at least heard about it. We talk about, laugh and joke at the lives of Chrissy, Olivia, Emily, Yandy, Erica, and Kimbella, but I think the one that catches my eye the most is Chrissy.
Chrissy reminds me of the average black female. Loving, but aggressive. Slightly confrontational. Lightening quick mind with a lightning quick mouth. All of these things are good and bad, depending on who is talking. The one thing that gets us talking is the fact that Chrissy has been with rapper Jim Jones for the better part of almost a decade, and she JUST got the ring this year. For some people out there, it seemed preposterous; “Girl, why would you wait that long? Dogs ain’t that loyal!” But the reason she caught so many women’s attention, including mine, was because her story is too far off from a personal one.
We all know a “Chrissy”. She holds her man down. She may nag, but it’s well-intentioned. She assists in whatever hustle he may be involved in. And she’s loyal. To a fault. So loyal, you almost pity her, because you wanna shake her. And chances are, if you don’t know a female like that *leans in* she may be you. Hell, I know I’m her. I can’t really knock Chrissy. My guy and I will be together five years this fall, and to many, including me, all that time without a ring is….asinine.
I guess what I’m trying to say is, the Chrissy Complex is rampant and real, and maybe that’s why we are so hard on her. We see more of her in ourselves than we’d like to admit.